In our view, nothing’s more scary and nerve-wracking than being on a date with that someone special, that too when it's your first time. Of course, things go a lot smoother when you have an obscenely high amount of confidence or comfort level with the other person. That way, you’re able to put your guard down and be completely frank, informal, vulnerable, and if you’re lucky, romantic in front of your potential lover. But what if you’re not brimming with confidence in the first place?
Regardless of your individual preferences, you’d surely want to captivate your date and put on a decent show the first time around. But the nerves you experience on the very first date can lead to a somewhat not-so-charming experience and leave both of you wanting more.
How to Avoid Those “Oops” Moments
If you end up getting cold feet and the dating jitters, let’s just break the ice and tell you, it's absolutely normal. In fact, it’s better than normal, unless it leaves you completely tongue-tied and blanked-out when it's time to get down to business. As a workaround, it might be advisable to put on some music to get yourselves in the groove and loosened up.
Dating coaches Lindsay Chrisler and Donna Barnes share that any sort of physical activity help you overcome these nervous jitters. Be it dancing in your apartment, hitting the gym or even a mindful yoga session, anything that helps you relieve those nerves before heading to the big date is the way to go. Another very effective trick you can try is to set a particular intention. Before you step inside the venue, take a moment, close your eyes and ask yourself what do you expect from this experience? Or what do you intend to do?
Apart from picking up a fancy, yet perfect restaurant and dressing extravagantly, try deviating your energy into this mindset and you’re sure to show up with a clearer head and full of confidence.
Elevate Your Overall Energy
Dating can be a challenge, especially if you’ve already hit a plateau. Bringing a certain amount of energy to your date is always quite tough, however, making a conscious effort can really elevate the energy and really help develop that chemistry between you and your crush.
How to Project Positivity?
Well, the answer is quite simple. Be open minded. Put an open posture in front of your date, and he/she will know how to read your body language. Dish out some healthy compliments (nothing creepy) and try setting positive intentions, even before the date starts.
Now that you’re armed with all that info, do let us know how your next date goes!